I no longer care if they think I’m crazy
In 2026, I will no longer say, “this might sound weird…” or “crazy, but..”, or any other preface to downplay a statement/thought.
That is all. 🤪🖤
Why Do I Feel Like Everything Has to Be Painful to Be Earned?
I once had a soul reader (yes, that's a thing! Keep up!) tell me that I felt like I needed to be suffering for people to relate to me.
Way Harsh Tai
Way harsh.
But was she wrong? Shared hatred and suffering does bond us to others, but do I want all my relationships centered on complaints and problems? Do I want to keep attracting this traumatic energy? I don't know where this narrative came from (according to her, it was a past life), but I want to release it.
Why does everything have to feel painful to be earned? Can't we just enjoy the process, instead of perpetually proving our value? Because there's no ceiling for that kind of suffering.
Changing Your Default Setting
After my last fight with my mom, I decided I was no longer okay with being so hard on her. That was not the relationship I wanted to have with her. I wanted to soften before it's too late, and I can't think of anyone more deserving of my appreciation in this life.
So, convinced I could change my neural pathways, I decided to send her a compliment a day for a week. I ended up sending my daily appreciations beyond the initial week, and it WORKED.
Forcing myself to see and vocalize the positive left us both feeling such gratitude. Things shifted. I'm tearing up even thinking about it. That's where the idea to shift my narrative originated—I saw that I could shift my patterns.
If you want to change your relationship with someone, change the conversations with that person. To produce new results, we need to take new actions.- Pursuit of Happiness by Chalmers Brothers.
Even if those actions feel awkward and unnatural at first. Even if you have to force it until it becomes real.
Sometimes the best debugging method is just: turn off the old pattern, (blow on it), turn on a new one, and see what happens.
What relationship in your life might shift if you changed the default conversation? Hit reply.
Stay unscripted
Love ,
Emmy Lu